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Wahoo
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| Posted 4/15/2004 1:03 PM (GMT -6) |   | | Is there one person that God has chosen for you to marry? | | Back to Top | | |
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John Earp
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| Posted 4/15/2004 1:30 PM (GMT -6) | | quote:
Originally posted by Wahoo
Is there one person that God has chosen for you to marry?
I would add at least one more category to the options of this poll:
My choice would be: There is one person God would think it wisest to marry at any given time in your life.
As some choose against God's will, they would be disqualified. My understanding is that who "THE ONE" is is changeable. (For example, see Dr. Boyd's book, God of the Possible, in which he relates the story of a young lady who was absolutely crushed emotionally and spiritually when "the one" God had given her the go-ahead to marry eventually had an affair on her and left her to marry his mistress. I seem to recall Doc saying that this guy was in fact "the one for her" before he turned away from the will of God, and that he would have continued to be the one, had he stayed true to God. This is why it seems to me that "the one" is changeable. It is my contention that there is "one" at any given point in your life, and each person has freewill choices to make, will they obey God or not? | | Back to Top | | |
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John Earp
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| Posted 4/15/2004 3:27 PM (GMT -6) | | For some reason, I am not able to vote. Must be God's will. 
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1Heart
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| Posted 4/15/2004 4:14 PM (GMT -6) | | quote:
Originally posted by John Earp
quote:
Originally posted by Wahoo
Is there one person that God has chosen for you to marry?
I would add at least one more category to the options of this poll:
My choice would be: There is one person God would think it wisest to marry at any given time in your life.
As some choose against God's will, they would be disqualified. My understanding is that who "THE ONE" is is changeable. (For example, see Dr. Boyd's book, God of the Possible, in which he relates the story of a young lady who was absolutely crushed emotionally and spiritually when "the one" God had given her the go-ahead to marry eventually had an affair on her and left her to marry his mistress. I seem to recall Doc saying that this guy was in fact "the one for her" before he turned away from the will of God, and that he would have continued to be the one, had he stayed true to God. This is why it seems to me that "the one" is changeable. It is my contention that there is "one" at any given point in your life, and each person has freewill choices to make, will they obey God or not?
John,
I would hesitate to say that there is even one at any given time in our life, although I agree with you about seeking God regarding A particular individual that we may be considering as a life partner. Hind site is 20/20.
I understand the example that Dr Boyd gave. He may indeed have been the best choice at the time (or he might not have). We don't know. The only thing we do know is that he had (we have) free will. It is up to us to decide to be the "best choice" day in and day out and there are times when all of us may feel like "throwing in the towel." But with Him there is always hope. There may even be a time when we should throw in the towel and that may not be because of anything that we have done. It is hard enough to judge our own circumstances, let alone those of others (not that you are judging...at all). So many factors come into play.
I think, once again, it comes back to living from who we are in Christ , which means a continual journey of discovery and yielding to God.
The Open View definitely makes the most sense in this regard. The "one" may no longer be "the one" if they choose to walk contrary to God.
Sometimes it comes down to obedience (probably most often), but sometimes things change (for many reasons) and as obedient as we might be, we cannot foresee that and we cannot choose for others. Free will applies to each marriage partner and we are only responsible for our own response to the Father. I have learned that I need to be focused on my relationship with the Father and allowing Him to change me. I cannot change someone else. I can affect them and hopefully inspire them by my life and heart and even obedience - but it's the 'ol "You can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink" thing, if you know what I mean.
God Bless,
Jo-Anne
"Sometimes all we can do is go back to the character of God, and drop anchor there."
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PotOnWheel
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| Posted 4/16/2004 1:11 AM (GMT -6) | | | Better to consider what the sacrament of marriage IS. | | Back to Top | | |
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Wahoo
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| Posted 4/16/2004 3:09 AM (GMT -6) | | echo,
Point taken. For milleniums, in almost every patriarchal society, arranged marriage was the norm. No sweating over who to marry then. If they weren't cute, you'd find ways to love them unconditionally.
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John Earp
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| Posted 4/16/2004 10:21 AM (GMT -6) | | To those who deny the idea as I have phrased it, when one is sincerely and earnestly seeking God with all their heart, soul, mind and strength, asking Him for direction as to whom God would think it wisest and best for them to marry, are you seriously going to say to this person, "God doesn't have an opinion?!"
I don't see how believing in the Open View (as I most certainly do) requires that we jettison the idea that God has a perfect match for us in mind. I'll certainly grant that that perfect match may choose to rebel and thus cease to be the perfect match, but my point is that at the time when one prays to God for direction about this HUGELY important issue, are we really to tell them God doesn't have a preference as to who they marry?
"The Discovery of new truth will modify old views and opinions, and there is perhaps no end to this process with finite minds in any world." Charles G. Finney, Systematic Theology.
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PotOnWheel
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| Posted 4/16/2004 10:50 AM (GMT -6) | | When thinking of the perfect spouse
two things come to mind,
The perfect husband should be deaf
His wife she should be blind
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