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Maybe we are wired by God to BE incarnated in our speech, so the idea of "de-personalized" speech is misguided. I honestly don't know. What I DO know is that I and others grow weary of the constant "I'm offended" thing.

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natural blend of all that matters, "beliefs" and "people", both. I see no way to separate the one from the other, and I see no reason to do so. Some folks are more ethical minded, some are more theoretical minded, some are both, some are neither. We are all gifted in different ways, all serving one another, and all are important to God. But I agree that application of dealing with both items (people and ideas) can become problematic to say the least. Same is true in person or in groups, from near or from afar.

Consider your lead
By your writings, you have helped thousands
(forgive me, I do not know your publication rates and would be interested in knowing them),
perhaps you are influencing upwards to a million people (perhaps many more!) with your writings. The venue of the written word is certainly a wonderful and well proven thing.

The heart of the matter
The common denominator in communication is an issue of the heart, not an issue of the venue in which people communicate. Take books for example, there are wonderful books, and there are terrible books. Same with TV, radio, internet forums, churches, and pubs.

Comfort and joy in all things
I agree that within a Church or small group fellowship or personal bible study setting, you typically (to some extent) can pick and choose who you worship with. This similarity of likeminded faith edifies and encourages us. But then again, our praise in God needs to gladly reach other less "comfort zone" groups, including those who also praise God but are not of such a similar like-minded faith. In so much as it is within out power to do, we should be in peace and unity of faith with all the brethren. And of course, our love of God should even go to the utmost to those who are certain enemies of God, doing whatever we can to reach the lost in hopes of bringing even just one into salvation.

Correction comes from an opposing view
Keeping at least some contact with people with less then like minded faith is thus a good thing to do. And usually that is the best path to new growth in the Lord. The only way to grow is to be open and willing to finding out that you were somehow in the wrong. And because of our mindset, we automatically tend to protect how it is that we think we are right, so most typically, we need to engage ourselves with others who's perspective and insight may well challenge us in a way that may lead us into greater truth and a deeper walk with God.

Rightly understanding people is messy business
Some people want to suppress what is inside for a myriad of reasons, so those types are harder to get a fuller picture, although such suppression is often easy to discover by a lack of personal openness. Some people are very tricky and may open themselves up but not walk very upright about things, so we get distorted views. Sure, there are all kinds of problems that people create. So what. God seems to think it's all worth the effort, He gave His love for all of us even while we were yet sinners, and we are no more special and loving and wise than God is.

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Mt 12:34 "Brood of vipers! How can you, being evil , speak good things? For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.

Mt 7:20 "Therefore by their fruits you will know them.

Mt 15:3 He answered and said to them, "Why do you also transgress the commandment of God because of your tradition? ...
... 6 ‘then he need not honor his father or mother.’ Thus you have made the commandment of God of no effect by your tradition.
7 "Hypocrites! Well did Isaiah prophesy about you, ...
9 And in vain they worship Me, Teaching as doctrines the commandments of men.’"
11 "Not what goes into the mouth defiles a man; but what comes out of the mouth, this defiles a man."
12 Then His disciples came and said to Him, "Do You know that the Pharisees were offended when they heard this saying?"
13 But He answered and said, "Every plant which My heavenly Father has not planted will be uprooted.
14 "Let them alone. They are blind leaders of the blind . And if the blind leads the blind, both will fall into a ditch."
15 Then Peter answered and said to Him, "Explain this parable to us."
16 So Jesus said, "Are you also still without understanding?
17 "Do you not yet understand that whatever enters the mouth goes into the stomach and is eliminated?
18 "But those things which proceed out of the mouth come from the heart, and they defile a man.
19 "For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies.
20 "These are the things which defile a man, but to eat with unwashed hands does not defile a man."

Joh 7:24 "Do not judge according to appearance, but judge with righteous judgment."

1Co 2:15 But he who is spiritual judges all things, yet he himself is [rightly] judged by no one.

Pr 9:8 Do not correct a scoffer, lest he hate you; Rebuke a wise man, and he will love you.

Pr 27:5 Open rebuke is better Than love carefully concealed.

Re 3:19 "As many as I love, I rebuke and chasten. Therefore be zealous and repent.

If the shoe of rebuke fits, don't (just) ware it, love it.