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PotOnWheel
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| Posted 1/27/2007 10:36 PM (GMT -6) |   | | | |
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PotOnWheel
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Total Posts : 9890
| Posted 1/28/2007 8:45 AM (GMT -6) | | Interesting, from this article...
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"Something Traditional Is Abandoned (Step Two)"
Rather than looking to the Lord and to the Word of God, Mrs. Hybels chose the psychological way to understand herself and describe her problems. She talks about the pain of having to be a "perfectionist," of being one who "can’t be yourself," who experiences "loneliness" and "sexual dysfunction," and who feels "trapped" by "one big should" into being a "people pleaser" and an "empty shell." She says that during May 1990 she felt, "I can’t go on like this...." She then confesses that in January 1991, at the age of 39, she went to a counselor. She says she "didn’t know how to be happy ... to like myself." One must ask the question, "Where was Jesus in her thinking?"
>From her time spent in therapy and in psychological self-help books, Mrs. Hybels picked up the psychological lingo, the psychobabble and catch phrases from pop psychology, so prevalent during the nineties. Moreover, she embraced a psychological world view that shifts blame onto other people and circumstances. From this psychological perspective, she describes various ways women may become wounded by being in the ministry, by being married to "wounded workaholics," by being a product of one’s parents, and by being harmed by evil people.
She says she had lost touch with her "true self," which she calls "the deepest part of me," which she describes as "instinctive, intuitive, spontaneous, creative, playful, vulnerable, unpretentious, joyous, free, spiritual, passionate, loving. . . ." The word "sinful" is missing from her list. However, she does use the word "shame" and says, "Shame is a big word for people who have been wounded." Mrs. Hybles follows the recovery gurus where "shame" is something that is unwarranted and wrongfully imposed on someone. The recovery movement has robbed the word "shame" of its general meaning having to do with the feeling that arises from one’s conscience from having done something wrong.
While Mrs. Hybels says she did not like herself, her list of positive qualities, "instinctive, intuitive, spontaneous, creative, playful, vulnerable, unpretentious, joyous, free, spiritual, passionate, loving," minus "sin" reveals the opposite. In contrast to the positive qualities ascribed to herself, one notices throughout her talk the negative qualities ascribed to God and others.
Mrs. Hybels says she had been living "above the wound," not according to her "true self." Her description of "above the wound" includes words such as "knowledge, intellect, fitting in, properness, caution, careful planning ... being good, being right and being in control and being successful." Notice that we have another list of positive qualities, but here she indicates that these were actually harmful to her, since they served as camouflages designed to protect the "real me hidden beneath the wound." She says, "I was separated from my true self." In her desperation she turned to self-help books (generally filled with pop psychology or a dangerous mix of psychology and the Bible) and went to a counselor, which she declares was "the hardest thing I ever did, but it was the best thing." She further admits that from June 1992 to September 1993 she "did not cook, clean, attend church. . . ."
Rather than using this emotional crisis in her life as a catalyst to draw closer to the Lord, she turned to the ways of the world and the wisdom of men about which God warns His people (1 Cor. 2). She had to "acknowledge and name" her wound, quit living in "denial," "feel the feelings associated with that wound," and realize that what she was really suffering was a grief she had experienced for 31 years over the "wounded little girl in me." She says, "I needed to rediscover my true self," and asserts that "wounded women need to value themselves more."
Here we have a gospel of self—a so-called healing of the so-called inner child, a wonderful "true self" that has always been there that needs to be released and restored, and an ongoing affirmation of self-worth. This is indeed a different gospel from the one in the Bible, where the old self (including the precious "inner child" of the past) must be crucified in Christ (put off and counted dead) and replaced by new life in Christ, which is not a restoration of the old self, but is a new creation, which "after God is created in righteousness and true holiness" (Eph. 4:24).
One of the enticing goals of the psychological way is to value self more. Whereas, the biblical goal is to know, love, and value God. Paul yearned to know Jesus, not only in His resurrection but in His suffering. Along with spending time with Jesus in prayer and Bible reading, one of the best ways to come to know Christ very personally and intimately is through suffering. We know Him better as we identify with Him in His suffering and are filled with gratitude for His ultimate sacrifice on our behalf. One misses this great opportunity to know Him and to be conformed to His image when one turns to the world for its remedies for suffering.
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