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diamondd
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   Posted 11/6/2002 10:52 PM (GMT -6)    Quote This PostAlert An Admin About This Post.
This is a side note to Doc: I attended your relationship conference these past couple days (even the evening men's one) at North Central. I enjoyed it and I know along with myself, many other students were blessed by your message. Just ascribin' a lil' worth to ya, God-style.

blessings,

David

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   Posted 11/7/2002 1:50 AM (GMT -6)    Quote This PostAlert An Admin About This Post.
David:
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I do have a problem, however, with the apparent gradation of personhood in your view. If we only receive personhood as we develop more “fully,” then this can also lead to gradation and qualitative statements about the personhood of others that are “less fully developed” or have “less brain activity”. This is in very dangerous ethical territory when such individuals as those mentally and physically handicapped, those in comas, those with less IQs, those with psychological mental problems, those elderly or sick who exist in a state of apparent “non-existence” (the euthanasia dilemma), etc., are allowed to be viewed as less human or have less personhood because they aren’t at the point of full human development or capability. This is why I can not separate human life and human personhood.


Nice post.

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ON A COMPLETELY DIFFERENT LANE...

The Norse practiced "OSTRACISM." Literally, that means "being sent EAST. ("Ost.") Functionally, to those living in Norway, it means being banished to the mountains (And you either live of the land, die, or keep going -- so, what does that say about us Swedes?) never to return (under pain of death!).

What this accomplishes is that it avoids the introduction of Clan blood-feuds; allows the relatives of the guilty to ALSO participate in his punishment, without taxing their humanity and their kin-love beyond the breaking point. It preserves and builds the community. It avoids, AS OUR DISCUSSIONS HERE INEVITABLY BECOME, atomization of just the single person's case. (THERE IS NO SUCH ONTOLOGICAL THING AS A SINGLE "PERSON." THAT IS AN INDIVIDUAL--WHICH IS LESS THAN CREATIONALLY HUMAN.)

Just some thoughts.

Edited by - Al2Si2H4O9 on 11/07/2002 09:37:05 AM
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trosie
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   Posted 11/7/2002 2:12 AM (GMT -6)    Quote This PostAlert An Admin About This Post.
Terry Baxter
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If I kill someone, I’m a killer. That’s the way it works. Just so, if trosie’s arguments are hypocritical and illogical, she’s an illogical/dumb hypocrite


EXCUSE ME, TERRY??? I wonder WHY you chose TROSIE as being an illogical/DUMB hypocrite in the quote above???? Did someone else actually refer to me this way and I missed it?


TROSIE (the illogical, dumb, hypocrite in some peoples eyes BUT NOT GOD'S whose view I care about)



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trosie
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   Posted 11/7/2002 2:19 AM (GMT -6)    Quote This PostAlert An Admin About This Post.
Gosh, one more thing. If some of you view me as illogical, dumb, hypocritical... I have a hard time seeing how you're ascribing unsurpassable worth to me (a fellow human being)? I see this as more proudful, arrogant, judgmental, and RUDE! This really hurt! And this is supposed to be a CHRISTIAN board that preaches LOVE no less!?

trosie

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Terry_Baxter
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   Posted 11/7/2002 3:06 AM (GMT -6)    Quote This PostAlert An Admin About This Post.
Trosie,

Goodness. I'm sorry for the hurt my post caused. I was stating what another person's post said, not stating my own views. Your post was the one that seemed to create a reaction and seemed to have been the victim of name calling. I was actually defending you, not attacking you and showing how someone else's post might be taken.

Terry

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Terry_Baxter
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   Posted 11/7/2002 3:23 AM (GMT -6)    Quote This PostAlert An Admin About This Post.
Empiress,

I can't say I'm surprised. I am a bit dissappointed.

I woke up after a restless sleep with a desire to remove my posts. Not because I believe I was unfair or wrong, but because I was writing out of a personal desire to defend people and challenge uncharitable debate tactics. I should have realized from watching others who've tried to do similiar things here that some things simply can't be challenged or discussed in this forum.

But my own sense of justice and fair plar aren't as important as unity in the body of Christ. And, if others react as Trosie did, misunderstanding something, I'm actually doing more harm than good.

Thanks to all those who've emailed me encouragement. You should have replies soon.

Terry
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might-be-don
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   Posted 11/7/2002 4:03 AM (GMT -6)    Quote This PostAlert An Admin About This Post.
the Doc says:
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"... To force a person to do something they don't want to do is the way of the world, not the way of the Kingdom. "


You , Doc, are not of this world.

peace and love, don

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Empiress
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   Posted 11/7/2002 7:33 AM (GMT -6)    Quote This PostAlert An Admin About This Post.
Trosie I am very sorry you were hurt by some things said on this board. I have no idea who used such words to speak of you because I've never seen anyone say that about you. I for one do not think you are stupid or hypocritical, etc. I also have no idea what your views are on the issues discussed here, but in case it is being insinuated that I called you names, I have never called you or any other person on this board a hypocrite or stupid.

A disclaimer for everyone else:
I said early on in this discussion in response to what Al wrote that I find certain pro-life/pro-death penalty views to be hypocritical, the definition of hypocrisy is: "feigning to believe what one does not" and that is the sense in which I used the word. That comment was not directed at anyone on this board nor was it a label regarding any person or their character. I sincerely hope my statement will not be misconstrued and misrepresented any further, but please know it was not directed towards any person. I'm sorry I used the word one time in the beginning of this debate because that word is very open to misunderstanding and has apparently caused people to assume some very ugly things about me, my motives, and my character. I hold hypocritical views myself and I don't think that makes me a hypocrite, but I strive to be consistent as much as possible. I believe it is always sinful to attack a person's character, but I will argue viewpoints thoroughly and directly: I believe this is the objective of this board. I often use strong words about views and statements because it makes for better debate and gets people thinking. It does not reflect some sense of moral superiority I believe I have over others: God knows I am, hands down, the worst sinner on this board if not in the Church! My priest can't even take in all my confessions! However, I do have healthy boundaries and will not allow my character to be abused by others.

And with that, I return to fulfilling the objective of this board of debating, discussing, and critiquing views, which I love to do....

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Doc said:
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I DO think it is possible to be pro-life in personal convinction, and pro-choice (to whatever degree) in politics.


I definitely agree and I find this a very important distinction to make, thank you.

Doc said:
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I would humbly submit that the way of the Kingdom -- and the deep meaning of pro-life -- is to come to the side of woman with unwanted pregnancies and WALK WITH THEM. In love, perhaps offer to adopt their child, or help find a different home for the child. Offer to pay for uninsured medical expenses. Offer to help them deal with the abusive ex-boy-friend father of the child who they fear will always be threatening if they go full term (this is a common reason for abortion). Ofter to pay for the counseling they might need dealing with this (what is to them) hardship. Ofter to be by them as they (sometimes with terror and great shame) tell their family. etc...


Yes, yes, yes. I don't think we can undervalue the power this has, not only in preventing abortions, but in testifying to our faith in a loving and merciful Lord. "You will know they are Christians by their love." Some of the stories I hear in the juvenile hall where I serve as a counselor are so horrifying...abused 14 year old girls impregnated by their fathers, etc. And there is absolutely no one who will support them...their options often come down to starvation and homelessness or abortion upon their release. I wish so much that more pro-lifers would come to their aid in substantial ways rather than merely registering their opinions in a vote...in fact, MANY of these girls want to keep their babies and cannot.

Doc asked:
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Given how difficult this issue is among Christians, philosophers, moral theoretician's, doctors, Bible scholars, etc... WHO, ultimately, should DECIDE the "right" view FOR THE PREGNANT WOMAN?


The problem you're identifying is one of finding a common authority that everyone can agree upon. Religious authorities are not recognized by those outside the faith and many Christians will not recognize those who speak as secular authorities. Personally I think we need to find a compromise and allow doctors, who we can all agree are medical authorities, to decide when "personhood" begins. Here's a very half-baked vision: We all vote democratically on a panel of doctors who will make the determination about when we can reasonably say personhood begins. These doctors listen to consultants who include ethicists and religious leaders before making a decision. They then must come to a decision by majority on the issue. Once they decide, women should have the ability to seek legal abortions within the time frame given, but we should also have a system by which women can request help/support from others if they would prefer to carry to term (and have a means to disseminate this information in some way). *shrugs* I don't know if it would work, but it's an idea.

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David said:
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Thanks again for your thorough responses. I enjoy the dialogue.


Thank you, I enjoy dialoguing with you too.

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Not everyone believes life is sacred (although most do), and if we wish for people to treat others as sacred then we need objective rationality, so this is why I tried to offer some “secular” arguments for the sanctity of life. All truth is God’s truth so ethics should also make sense apart from the Bible (in which I think you would agree).


Yes, I do agree. I was answering your question according to my own views, but if we were to frame it in such a way that secular folks could agree to, it would need to be worded differently.

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It is rather in spirit and other non-physical characteristics in which we are in his image.


I agree with this too. God is Spirit, so being in God's image must entail non-physical attributes. I tend to think this has something to do with our souls (and that won't fly with a lot of people)!

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So to put a period in this development when one is considered a person seems unfounded because if the definition of personhood is full development, some could argue this doesn’t happen until after puberty.


I don't think this slippery slope argument is plausible given that everyone in our society already marks "birth" as as the moment when killing becomes immoral and punishable by law because newborns are already seen as persons. We are not in danger of suddenly saying that toddlers and teens are not persons in our society. The real argument is only taking place in terms of what occurs -before- birth, and that is what this "progression towards personhood" argument has been limited to, pre-birth.

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Therefore, if God is the creator of life, at the point in which life begins (conception – because sperm doesn’t grow on its own into human form, but when connected to the egg is does, rather obvious I think) wouldn’t he impart his image into that creation? If not, who are we to say when he does in the developmental process? What reasons do we have to believe he withholds his image until a certain point or period of development after the initial conception?


I think these are all good, and very tough questions. I agree that "life" begins at conception, but "life" can include any cellular life from skins cells to plant life, etc. In Genesis, God fully forms Adam (man) and THEN "breathes his breath" (ruach) or "spirit" into his nostrils. I think this demonstrates that God waits until a human is formed before breathing his Spirit/implanting his image. I also think part of what personhood entails is having consciousness (the awareness of being), and part of what consciousness relies on this body is brain activity, etc.,therefore that is a reasonable time to pinpoint personhood.

Btw, I think that all life and all creation is in some way stamped with the Creator's own signature and reflects his being, but that doesn't mean that killing plants and animals to eat is immoral. I believe humans are alone bearers of God's own image due to God's Spirit being present within them.

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I do have a problem, however, with the apparent gradation of personhood in your view. If we only receive personhood as we develop more “fully,” then this can also lead to gradation and qualitative statements about the personhood of others that are “less fully developed” or have “less brain activity”. This is in very dangerous ethical territory when such individuals as those mentally and physically handicapped, those in comas, those with less IQs, those with psychological mental problems, those elderly or sick who exist in a state of apparent “non-existence” (the euthanasia dilemma), etc., are allowed to be viewed as less human or have less personhood because they aren’t at the point of full human development or capability. This is why I can not separate human life and human personhood.


Okay, I hear your concern and want to address it because I don't think your concern is necessary for several reasons. First, those who are mentally and physically handicapped, the elderly, sick, those in comas, etc. all have sufficient brain activity to be legally and medically declared as "alive" by medical science. Doctors do not claim that those with severe mental retardation are actually "brain dead." That same standard would apply to those in the womb. Therefore, we are not in danger of sliding backwards by admitting that within the first FEW weeks of life, no brain activity or brain is even present and therefore personhood cannot be established in the same way that a dead body cannot. Again, this debate and this position is limited only to the medical definition of "alive" versus "dead" and is also limited to a discussion regarding the first few weeks of human development.

I actually think your first concern about how to phrase a pro-life position that does not depend on Christian terms is your best argument. In fact, for those purposes and in that context I would concede that speaking about "future life" can be very helpful because in the secular realm I think we ought to use whatever language we can that will communicate effectively.

The way I would approach the issue of personhood however within the secular realm is by appealing to the fact that our society already has a very strong ethic against the "murder of persons" without getting into issues of the sacred, etc. Therefore, if we can make a medically convincing case that at some point prior to birth a fetus has become a "person," then we can view the killing of that person in the same way that we currently view all murders. What do you think?

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Again I wanted to say I appreciate the dialogue and your value for the sacred beings that God has created us as. The only issue is that we have different conclusions about what this means. But this thread has been worth the struggles, because of the understanding of each others views that I think we are gaining. Thanks.


Thank you too. My views are always fleshed out by productive dialogue such as this!

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might-be-don said:
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You , Doc, are not of this world.


Amen to that!

Peace,
~E

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   Posted 11/7/2002 8:23 AM (GMT -6)    Quote This PostAlert An Admin About This Post.
Empiress:
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The problem you're identifying is one of finding a common authority that everyone can agree upon. Religious authorities are not recognized by those outside the faith and many Christians will not recognize those who speak as secular authorities. Personally I think we need to find a compromise and allow doctors, who we can all agree are medical authorities, to decide when "personhood" begins. Here's a very half-baked vision: We all vote democratically on a panel of doctors who will make the determination about when we can reasonably say personhood begins. These doctors listen to consultants who include ethicists and religious leaders before making a decision. They then must come to a decision by majority on the issue. Once they decide, women should have the ability to seek legal abortions within the time frame given, but we should also have a system by which women can request help/support from others if they would prefer to carry to term (and have a means to disseminate this information in some way). *shrugs* I don't know if it would work, but it's an idea.




Let me just interject a quick comment here. I'll be back on the death penalty stuff later when I have more time. Empiress, your idea above demonstrates the problem with Roe v. Wade. You are exactly right to ask for a decision to be made in some kind of democratic fashion. The problem with Roe v. Wade is that it nullifies any democratic decision on this issue, and in my opinion, as you state above, abortion is too complicated and murky to be decided by five or six individuals on the Supreme Court. Decisions like this are best made in a democratic fashion by way of a representative legislature. See my earlier posts on this for more detail.

Brett

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Empiress
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   Posted 11/7/2002 9:47 AM (GMT -6)    Quote This PostAlert An Admin About This Post.
Brett said:

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The problem with Roe v. Wade is that it nullifies any democratic decision on this issue, and in my opinion, as you state above, abortion is too complicated and murky to be decided by five or six individuals on the Supreme Court. Decisions like this are best made in a democratic fashion by way of a representative legislature.


Brett, you rock! That is a great way to put it. I confess I have not read a single other thread on these topics on this board because I (wisely) didn't want to get embroiled in emotional issues in the past, but I gave into temptation this time (unwisely). But that means that I don't know what anyone else's position on this board is on these issues and am only now finding out; I don't know what you've already said on this issue! I would like to hear more about your ideas on a solution though; this sounds stellar! :)

A question...do you think a similar thing can/should be done regarding the death penalty?

Thanks,
~E

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   Posted 11/7/2002 10:30 AM (GMT -6)    Quote This PostAlert An Admin About This Post.
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Brett said:

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The problem with Roe v. Wade is that it nullifies any democratic decision on this issue, and in my opinion, as you state above, abortion is too complicated and murky to be decided by five or six individuals on the Supreme Court. Decisions like this are best made in a democratic fashion by way of a representative legislature.


Brett, you rock! That is a great way to put it. I confess I have not read a single other thread on these topics on this board because I (wisely) didn't want to get embroiled in emotional issues in the past, but I gave into temptation this time (unwisely). But that means that I don't know what anyone else's position on this board is on these issues and am only now finding out; I don't know what you've already said on this issue! I would like to hear more about your ideas on a solution though; this sounds stellar! :)




Thanks, E. Glad you see my point!

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A question...do you think a similar thing can/should be done regarding the death penalty?



Absolutely. And for the most part, the issue of the death penalty IS handled by each state's representative legislature. Several state legislatures have voted to do away with the death penalty entirely. Others have limited it quite extensively. Some (like Texas and Florida, e.g.) have decided that it is worthwhile to place few limitations on it. In my opinion, this is how it should work. Let people decide this tough issue for themselves in a democratic fashion.

Unfortunately, the Supreme Court likes to interject itself into this issue too at times. In 1972, the Court decided a case called Furman v. Georgia in which they banned the death penalty nationwide. That was subsequently reversed, but as recently as this year the Court decided in Atkins v. Virginia that no state could execute an individual diagnosed with mental retardation. My point is that regardless of what position one takes on this issue (like the abortion issue), all should agree that an oligarchy of five or six judges should not be allowed to so expansively apply the Constitution in order to make the decision for all of us.

As I stated earlier, "middle ground" is never found in a court, Supreme or otherwise. The branch of our political system that was created to find compromise is that of the legislature---not the judiciary.

So yes, I believe the death penalty issue should be handled in the same way that the abortion issue should be handled: by democratic representation.

Brett

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Terry Baxter
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I was stating what another person's post said, not stating my own views.


WHO was this poster who made the statement that you so freely decided to associate my name with? I am kind of thinking if it must have been Greg Boyd since that is who you were originally directing the post to. I must admit that I am a bit surprised that Greg Boyd would say such MEAN things about another person when he is always preaching to ascribe unsurpassable worth to other people (especially if they're not within the "circle")I am surprised that you, Terry, would so loosely associate my name to the name calling if the person hadn't done so. I think that wasn't the most sensitive nor respectful thing to do. BTW, I am NOT dumb nor ignorant and don't appreciate being called those things!

Miss E, thank you for your reply. I am TOTALLY getting sick of how RUDE people can be on this board! Rude DOES NOT equal living out the gospel message! You have shown differently, Miss E, so whether I agree with your views or not I totally appreciate the respect you've shown me. No one else who has posted since that has seemed to care a hoot about that name calling post. Thank you, Miss E.



Trosie







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Empiress:
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God knows I am, hands down, the worst sinner on this board if not in the Church! My priest can't even take in all my confessions!


Hello Empiress,

HEY, no way!
God knows I AM worse!! I remember my priest just shaking his head...tsk tsk


THANKS for the flashback!

peace
selah

Then He showed me the river whose waters give life, sparkling like crystal, flowing out from the throne of God and of the Lamb. Rev. 22:1

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Trosie: :WHO was this poster who made the statement (trosie is dumb and ignorant) that you so freely decided to associate my name with? I am kind of thinking if it must have been Greg Boyd since that is who you were originally directing the post to. I must admit that I am a bit surprised that Greg Boyd would say such MEAN things about another person when he is always preaching to ascribe unsurpassable worth to other people (especially if they're not within the "circle").... I am TOTALLY getting sick of how RUDE people can be on this board! Rude DOES NOT equal living out the gospel message! "

Doc: Please tell me I'm missing a crucial something here. Either that, or this is surreal.

Snap shot: Terry gives a quote that is something about Trosie being dumb and ignorant. Trosie is angry at Terry and the entire board. Trosie can't find the quote. Empiress doesn't recall it. I never heard it. Terry explains he was defending Trosie. Though the quote is still not located, Trosie nevertheless suspects it was originally given by me, though this would make me a hypocrite since I preach love. I've posted (I think) at most four rather short posts... can't be too hard too determine if I said this or not. In any case, the suspicion stands and she's angry because of how rude the board is.



I've totally misunderstood this, right?

I'm almost afraid to ask why Trosie would publically hold me up as prime suspect #1 though she couldn't/ didn't locate the quote... life is too short. It doesn't matter. Lets move on. It just strikes me as odd.

But Terry, please help Trosie out and tell her who you were quoting.

And, if I might, it would help you get your point across more effectively if you would pull the throttle back on your rhetoric. If I were Empiress, I would have decided to discontinue the conversation before she did. She was REALLY patient.

Well, I have to say that this board has not run out of surprises.

Doc









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Edited by - trosie on 11/07/2002 4:11:44 PM


"In Christ...the ONLY THING that matters is faith energized by love." Galatians 5:6

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Doc
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Doc: Please tell me I'm missing a crucial something here. Either that, or this is surreal.

Snap shot: Terry gives a quote that is something about Trosie being dumb and ignorant. Trosie is angry at Terry and the entire board. Trosie can't find the quote. Empiress doesn't recall it. I never heard it. Terry explains he was defending Trosie. Though the quote is still not located, Trosie nevertheless suspects it was originally given by me, though this would make me a hypocrite since I preach love. I've posted (I think) at most four rather short posts... can't be too hard too determine if I said this or not. In any case, the suspicion stands and she's angry because of how rude the board is.




Here's the thing. Terry was replying to a post to YOU when making the comment about me. I have had NOTHING to do with this thread for a few pages so I was surprised when my name all of a sudden came up in this argument. I believe Terry must have changed his post from what he originally said because I can no longer find it on this thread Doc,it's nothing personal AT ALL but I was just trying to make a guess at who name called "people like me" and since Miss E. said she didn't make the comment you are the other person who Terry seems to be debating on this thread.

As far as being angry at the board? Okay, I am sorry for that. I overreacted because I felt hurt that someone freely name called me and no one seemed to think too much about it. I can almost bet you if I name called a minority group (which I NEVER would) I would have several people all over my post. But no one seemed to think twice to Terry calling me dumb, ignorant, hypocritical. Perhaps it goes WAY back to how NO ONE ever stood up for trosie when she was a little girl. Maybe I overreacted because I was totally caught off guard and found that no one seemed to care that a fellow poster was put down.... until I made a stink Perhaps a hologram flashed in my mind and I reacted in a way to protect the little girl. I have NEVER name called nor belittled anyone on this board so I was surprised that whoever the "mystery poster" is would have called me ignorant, hypocritical... just for expressing myself.

Sorry for the accusation and I guess from your post you are not the one who called me those names. Sorry.

trosie

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Trosie,
I am sorry for what has been apparently said or inferred by someone. I didn't notice the post at first, mainly cause i have lot school work besides to do that i can't read every post. but to me it seemed like a lot of inferring and in the heat of an arguement your name go used from an inferrence. I doubt it's personal. I shouldn't have happened. people make mistakes. i don't think that people are intentially trying to be malicious or cause emotional harm. I try not to get involved in the more bickering posts because i don't feel it is constructive to issue as a whole. So again I hope you feel respected and love by others on the bored. our love should always come before our pride in our arguements. I feel sorry with you, and i hope you see that this empathy shows a love for you as a child of God.

In Love,

David

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Trosie said:
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I overreacted because I felt hurt that someone freely name called me and no one seemed to think too much about it.


I can totally relate; I'm going through the same feelings myself. I have not received any apologies and no one stood up for me despite the incredible accusations hurled my way against my deepest character. I hope the fact that no one defended me either helps you feel that it's not personal or that you're not alone in getting ignored in the midst of this name calling. I just don't think most people are paying much attention; I don't know because I think I was too stunned by own my pain.

And I very much respect your honesty. Thank you very much, you're a kind soul.

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Selah said:
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THANKS for the flashback!


Hey, you're welcome! But I'm still WORSE!

~E


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David, you have no idea how much your kind words of encouragement have meant for me here. Thank you my dear brother!

Miss E, thank you for expressing yourself because it helps me to NOT feel crazy(for defending my character) and alone around here. I deeply needed to hear what you shared about your feeling similarly to having your character attacked and I am sorry for that!

God bless you both!
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   Posted Yesterday 1:54 AM (GMT -6)    Quote This PostAlert An Admin About This Post.
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CieCie:
I haven't personally taken a hardline stance on this issue one way or the other. This thought comes to me often during the debate of when life actually begins, and it follows Trosie's line of thinking that she stated above. That prior to brainwaves existence is necessary for the life to begin. We were all those cells multiplying and dividing. We wouldn't be here if we were removed like an ingrown toenail. Isn't what those cells lead to important? It all leads to someone who is in the image of God? Is a baby "less than" an adult because their brainwaves are in the process of growing and connecting? Would it be "less" to kill a a baby than an adult because they haven't reached their full potential? I'm not just asking this rhetorically, I'd really like to know how this is reasoned out by those who see this as an option.

Thank you,
In Him,
CieCie
CieCie-

I'm four pages late, but as moderator let me thank you for joining the site and welcome you!

Blessings,
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   Posted Yesterday 2:04 AM (GMT -6)    Quote This PostAlert An Admin About This Post.
Let me also encourage everyone to continue making conscious efforts to value others, to affirm them as persons, and to speak always motivated by love. This is a very difficult and emotional subject. Passionate debate is encouraged, but it's best employed when in the service of Christlike love.

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shell
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SHELL: I am following this thread closely because this is an issue that I think about a lot, and I am interested in both sides of the debate. But the misunderstandings have been abounding and are getting very frustrating. I have chosen not to jump in on the topic because of it. I posted right before Greg did, much of what I am about to post...I erased it because I kept thinking "Who made me referee?" but I decided to say it now and risk getting...well...attacked...

TERRY:When some people are immune from aspersions while others can't say a word without being labeled insensitive, it lends to bad argument.

SHELL: Terry has expressed here and on other threads that he feels certain posters get special treatment and defended because of WHO they are not really based on what is said.(my interpretation) so this is why I have been hesitant to jump in and say what I think about the misunderstandings and personal attacks...but now I changed my mind.

SHELL: Terry, You have been paraphrasing what people have said and posting what they have supposedly said without posting the actual qoute. This has cause a lot of problems on this thread, a la Greg Boyd a few posts back regarding the ingrown toenail comment.That is why I posted his actual quote. Now the lack of an actual quote has caused a huge misunderstanding with Trosie. I have gone back through all of the posts and can't even FIND a post regarding a statement Trosie made as being illogical etc. Please post the quote if it is there. You seemed offended when I called this to your attention last time, and told me you were "Not about misrepresenting people". I don't believe it is intentional, but it is happening.

SHELL: Trosie, throughout this thread Terry has drawn the parallel(his belief) that calling someones statement illogical or hypocritical is actually referring to that person as an illogical person or a hypocrite(I personally don't agree with this). So he was drawing that parallel ...someone(?) referring to a STATEMENT you made as being illogical or whatever = them calling you dumb/hypocritical/illogical. He WAS actually defending you and drawing this parallel on your behalf. NO ONE actually called you those names...that was always clear to me. He was drawing the parallel on your "behalf". He also apologized for the misunderstanding.

I had posted this in my erased post...that going back through the posts it was obvious that Greg hadn't said anything negative about you at all, and to jump to that conclusion and put his name in there and the sarcastic comments about him "preaching love" was a personal attack on him (and belittling). Doc had posted earlier about how tough this subject can be and asked that we be gracious with one another as we continued...then he gets accused of making a statement about calling someone dumb and hypocritical. WIERD. All I can say is before someone is accused of something like that the quote had better be found and posted. It is also frustrating that you compared this to comments about minorities, as if they get special treatment when offense is taken on their behalf. The reason I wasn't compelled to defend you is Terry misrepresented a supposed quote(his mistake), to actually defend you...can you see that?

SHELL: Empiress, I just want you to know that I have been frustrated with the attacks leveled on your character. It is so obvious to me that you are passionate about this subject and are stating deep beliefs and going after statements and not the person. I am sorry you felt like you were not supported and no one called these attacks into question. I was, just not outwardly on the board. It seemed impossible to say anything without offending someone.


I also have one other question...Why does Doc's post say edited by Trosie at the bottom?????


Frustrated,
Shell









Edited by - shell on 11/08/2002 10:26:03 AM

Edited by - shell on 11/09/2002 06:43:05 AM
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Yo...

Ok. This is not at ALL meant to sound holier-than-anyone. I am one of the biggest offenders of the principle I'm about to talk about...and work at it daily. This is coming from a person who is IN PROCESS with the same issue. So please understand that upfront.

I think that, many times, discussing passionate subjects can cause us to do many things. One of those things is to really separate a person's IDEAS or RESPONSES from their who they are as a person. And it goes both ways. One person may be absolutely VISCERAL against a person's argument...and the opponent take it as a personal assault. (This easily happens when a person so IDENTIFIES with their argument, that the line between person and position becomes blurred in their own mind) Or... One person may be actually demeaning another person's character while THINKING they are 1)attacking an argument or 2)giving an impression of a person's behavior.

This is simply the reason why when it comes to topics like abortion, racism, sexism, homosexuality, political correctness, and the like, many people would rather just AVOID the subject altogether rather than to get involved. Too much emotional baggage on both sides, tending to end up with MUCH more heat than light. The irony is especially rich (and pathetic, to some) when people who claim to be freethinkers or open, loving people fall into this trap. What happens? Crucial issues that need to be addressed end up barely touched, if at all, while everyone's tempers and blood pressures go up. This used to happen to me a LOT before, but less so now (Thank Heaven)

Here is something that I am doing to work on me and maybe it will help here. I try to, as much as possible, separate the issue/ideas as far away from the person as possible. As far as I'm concerned, you (or I) can have royally f'd up ideas...but that doesn't necessarily say anything about you as a human being. If I keep that in front of me, I go a long way. Also, I try to REALLY understand things from their perspective. Get inside it. Feel that stuff if I can. I've been surprised time and again how honest, intelligent, loving people can come to completely opposite ideas...but I've been more surprised at how I can see the relative absurdity of my own ideas when looking through the eyes of someone else.

These are things I constantly try to work on to increase myself being a better human. I think this could be helpful here. Holla.

Later,


PS: I apply the following quote to my own attempts and failures at being a better communicator...

Philippians 3:13-16
Brothers, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus. All of us who are mature should take such a view of things. And if on some point you think differently, that too God will make clear to you. Only let us live up to what we have already attained.


Slow down. Stop. But never go backwards in the struggle for expanding our capacity to love.

PSS: My take on abortion. I don't fall into either category rigidly, but let it be said that I DO think that there is a place for abortion.

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   Posted Yesterday 5:43 AM (GMT -6)    Quote This PostAlert An Admin About This Post.
MEPHI:
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Yo...

Ok. This is not at ALL meant to sound holier-than-anyone.



SHELL: Is there a reason you tend to use the "holier-than-thou" disclaimer always in proximity to my posts....(just kidding)

No, I really do hope I don't come across that way...

Shell

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   Posted Yesterday 5:56 AM (GMT -6)    Quote This PostAlert An Admin About This Post.
You don't come off that way to me, Shell. Not at all. You're cool. I was just letting everyone know that I wasn't saying anything that I place myself beyond. That's all. But you have reminded me that impactful statements made are rarely easily forgotten. So, just to clarify, you and I are cool ALLLLLLL the way around. Love ya, sis. Straight up.

Mad love and vibes,
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   Posted Yesterday 6:07 AM (GMT -6)    Quote This PostAlert An Admin About This Post.
MEPHI:
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You don't come off that way to me, Shell. Not at all. You're cool. I was just letting everyone know that I wasn't saying anything that I place myself beyond. That's all. But you have reminded me that impactful statements made are rarely easily forgotten. So, just to clarify, you and I are cool ALLLLLLL the way around. Love ya, sis. Straight up.

Mad love and vibes,





SHELL:

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