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|  BBBCanada Registered Member

Date Joined Jun 2001 Total Posts : 2763 | Posted 7/31/2003 4:10 AM (GMT -6) |   | Just to start off, this is NOT a thread about homosexual marriages. Though they relate to this, this is not necessarily the main point of this article. Several years ago, Franky Schaffer put out a book called, "A Time for Anger: The Myth of Neutrality."
www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/0891072632/qid=1059659640/sr=1-4/ref=sr_1_4/104-7305807-4975138?v=glance&s=books
This article echos much of what he said in that book. I have read some of the articles by Cooper and Bercuson and Farrow, in my opinion, accurately assesses their views. I'd like to know your thoughts on this. Also, maybe we could do a poll! Enjoy!
Marriage and religion are public affairs Douglas Farrow National Post
Thursday, July 31, 2003
Should the state get out of the marriage business? That's what Barry Cooper and David Bercuson recently argued in these pages. The state's retention of an interest in marriage, they suggested, is inconsistent with Trudeau's dictum that the state has no place in the bedrooms of the nation. What is more, it violates not only the bedrooms but the churches of the nation, to which marriage questions rightfully belong. Marriage, in other words, is not a public affair, and neither is religion. Leave the one to the other and complete our retreat from the interventionist state.
This argument is being heard more often these days. I suggested something like it myself in this newspaper a few months ago, when I insisted that the abolition of marriage will be the outcome of the government's current course of action. I was taken up (sans sarcasm) by Russell Smith in The Globe and Mail: "Why not eliminate marriage as a legal category altogether, and leave it as a religious one?" asked Smith. "We don't issue legal certificates for confirmations, circumcisions or bar mitzvahs. Why not leave marriage to the churches and temples and covens?" But, with all due respect, the argument that the government should abandon marriage will not stand much scrutiny, for it is built on a series of half-truths.
Let me try to deal with it in the form given it by Drs. Cooper and Bercuson, beginning with some comments on Trudeau's dictum. The notion that the state has no place in the bedrooms of the nation is both true and false. It is true as a matter of criminal justice, which requires a distinction between sin and crime. It is true as a matter of human rights, which include the right to privacy. As a matter of family law, however, it is false. The state has an interest -- not a controlling interest but an interest just the same -- in family life and human reproduction, for these things belong to the foundations of society. Hence it cannot entirely ignore the bedrooms of the nation any more than it can ignore, say, the private laboratories of the nation where reproductive technologies are pursued; or the divorce courts, where the details of the nations' bedrooms sometimes spill out.
Now, according to Cooper and Bercuson, "interpreting the will of God" is what the marriage controversy is really about. Getting the state not only out of the bedrooms, but out of marriage altogether, will disentangle it from this essentially religious struggle. In taking this view they are echoing that of the Law Commission of Canada in Beyond Conjugality: "Contemporary Canadian understandings of religious freedom and equality require that the state not take sides in religious matters. The history of marriage regulation in Canada has thus been characterized by a progressive uncoupling of religious and legal requirements, reflecting a growing emphasis on the separation of Church and state in a secular and pluralistic political community. Our current understanding of religious freedom requires that laws and policies, including those that regulate personal adult relationships, pursue objectives that can be defended in secular rather than religious terms."
But this too is a half-truth, however balanced it may sound to the pious secular ear. Whether we like it or not, the state cannot fail to take sides in certain religious disputes. The LCC itself has done so right here, in its own decision to make marriage a sub-category of what it calls "close personal adult relationships." For to do that is already to disagree with the major religious traditions about what marriage is, and to side with the view of a small religious minority and a somewhat larger anti-religious movement.
Yet another half-truth is found in the notion that religion, like sex, is not public but private. One of the ironic aspects of this debate, and of our society, is that as sex has been getting more public -- a fact that makes Trudeau's dictum increasingly irrelevant -- religion has been getting more private. It's OK to stroll down a Toronto street with nothing but sandals on, if you do it in a "gay pride" parade, but not OK to stand (clothed or otherwise) near an abortion clinic and pray to God that people won't kill their babies.
But who says religion is private? Cooper and Bercuson do, though it is not clear to me by what authority: "Religion is, and is accepted to be, in the realm of the private, not the public domain." Of course it all depends on what you mean by private. Private in the sense that the state can't give it and the state can't take it away, yes. Private in the sense that it is a mode of life not publicly conducted, or that it has no direct bearing on the common good or on public policy, no. Historically, semantically, and philosophically that is less than half a truth. It is no truth at all. Insofar as the state adopts this private view and imposes it on the public, it will find itself more, rather than less, entangled with religion. The people Cooper and Bercuson don't yet see on the streets will be there.
And here we must identify one more half-truth. Divorcing marriage might simplify things for the feds, but only for the briefest moment, as Beyond Conjugality makes clear. It most certainly will not simplify things for Canadian citizens, who will have to contend with a whole new range of interventionist statutes. Here is one citizen, at least, who doesn't want the government (or the Law Commission) trying to regulate his close personal relationships, thanks just the same! Putting up with the botched job it has done with marriage is trial enough.
Douglas Farrow is associate professor of Christian Thought at McGill University.
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   |  ReasonableDoubt Registered Member
 Date Joined Jan 2003 Total Posts : 655 | Posted 8/12/2003 6:08 AM (GMT -6) |   | I think one of the problems is the can of worms the state gets into once it decides to legalize gay marriage. The argument has already been made in a case in Utah that polygamy should not be illegal since the Court decision of "Lawrence v. Texas." If the state goes down the road of legalizing gay marriage, it then has to somehow rationalize why polygamy should also not be legal - as long as the group of people are all consenting adults - and therefore, they should be granted all the rights and benefits of married couples. Where to draw the line? Why can't I legally marry my pet then? Or my brother or sister? Or my mom or dad? If all "marriage" is is a state-sanctioned relationship that bestows legal rights and benefits, it should not be denied to me simply because I am celibate- come on, what does sex have to do with it? If it's merely a relationship based on love - I can have that with anyone- it doesn't have to be someone I'm having a sexual relationship with, does it? As a single person, maybe I'm mad and feel discriminated against b/c I don't get any marriage tax breaks, or any health benefits for my pets, etc etc.
I think you can see where I'm going here. The state has a legitimate SECULAR interest in keeping marriage for opposite sex couples only - it has an interest in protecting the family and propogating the species, so to speak, and by conferring legal rights and privileges upon those relationships, it encourages those secular values.
It really would be untenable and unworkable to open the door to have state-sanctioned marriages composed of any other relationship- there are only so many resources the state has.
The other alternative is what is stated in the article - have no state-sanctioned relationships at all. Confer no rights or benefits onto anybody's relationship - let the status of the relationships be determined by the church, or by the people's own judgment, or whatever - but grant no legal rights or benefits. This also is completely unworkable at this point in time. We'd have to do away with our tax structure, our social security structure- many aspects of family law including real estate division and property ownership - child support, etc etc. | | Back to Top | | |
 |  Starkman Registered Member

Date Joined Oct 2001 Total Posts : 1747 | Posted 8/12/2003 6:35 AM (GMT -6) |   | We can't forget that this country was founded upon theistic and Biblical principles--well, principles that obviously, unobstructed, come from God. So, when those principles and framework disolve, well, one ends up marrying their ... pet! Gads!
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  |  PotOnWheel Registered Member

Date Joined Jul 2001 Total Posts : 9890 | Posted 8/12/2003 7:43 AM (GMT -6) |   | quote: Originally posted by Laplace
ReasonableDoubt,
That is quite true what you said, both in the fallacy in the homosexual arguments and in the alternative to having no state sanctioned institution at all. If we put values of privacy and consent over absolute truths, then that is the natural conclusion.
However (and fortunately), marriage is still enough within the "Natural Law" of humans to understand that there is something "right" about marriage between a man and woman and something "odd" about any of the other unions that you mentioned.
To be honest though, since we have already perverted sexual behavior and its attitudes into anything we want, we are closer now to such a reality than ever before in this country.
The "natural law" arguement seems to me to be "man-made."
God's Word/declaration is "higher."
quote: Genesis 1:26 And God said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness: and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the birds of the heavens, and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth. 27 And God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. 28 And God blessed them . . . 31 And God saw everything that he had made, and, behold, it was very good.
quote: Mark 10:5 "But Jesus said unto them, For your hardness of heart he wrote you this commandment. But from the beginning of the creation, Male and female made he them. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and the two shall become one flesh: so that they are no more two, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder."
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 |  PotOnWheel Registered Member

Date Joined Jul 2001 Total Posts : 9890 | Posted 8/12/2003 7:47 AM (GMT -6) |   | What follows does not follow the strict line of the thread. But it does go along with the scripture passages just mentioned. Please pardon.
THIS IS SOMETHING ABOUT THE COMPLEMENARITY OF MAN AND WOMAN; SOMETHING NOT JUST ABOUT PROCREATION:
quote: Christos Yannaras "Man": Chapter 7 of Elements of Faith (T&T Clark: Edinburgh, 1991), pp. 53-88.
http://www.jbburnett.com/yannaras/yannaras-man.html
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h. The distinction between the sexes
In the biblical narrative of man's creation, the truth of the image of God which is imprinted in man is followed or fulfilled with the distinction of the sexes, the differentiation of man and woman. "And God made man; in the image of God he made him; male and female he made them" (Gen 1. 27). In this phrase, ecclesial hermeneutics saw the joining of the "image" with the "power of love" of man, the power which drives him to realize life as communion with the other sex, while at the same time this same force is also constitutive of life; it is the way for human life to be constituted in new personal hypostases and so for man to be increased and multiplied, to fill the earth and to have dominion over it (Gen 1.28).
But there exists as well a second description of the creation of man, which the second chapter of the book of Genesis (vv. 4-25) preserves for us and which the philologists consider to be more ancient as a written formulation . There, the formation of man is not bound from the beginning with the differentiation of the sexes. God creates the first human, who has a masculine name, "Adam". But the name shows the quality of earthliness, not his sex. On this first and general human, God breathes his breath and establishes him as a "living soul". The differentiation of sex follows, only in order to serve the need for communion: "It is not good for man to be alone; let us make a helper for him who is like him" (2.18). And the distinction of the sexes is accomplished with the intervention of a special creative activity of God, a second formation: God imposes an "ecstasy" on Adam and takes one of his ribs and constructs the woman (2.21-22).
In this second description, the consciousness of sex is also the first expression of man's self-knowledge: Facing the existence which has come forth from his side, Adam gives himself a name, a name which arises from his relation to his partner. He is not longer simply "Adam", he becomes ish and she becomes ishah– he becomes a man since she is a woman (2-23). With the criteria of ecclesial hermeneutics, we must see in the image of the first and general human the undivided unity of human nature. But the natural similarity of flesh and bones (Gen 2.23) is not enough to ensure that unity of nature which would establish man as an image of the divine triadic unity. The triadic prototype of life is unity as a communion of love, a communion of separate and free hypostases, not a naturally given unity. So we return again to the necessity of the distinction of the sexes if the image or manifestation of the life of the uncreated is to be realized within the bounds of the created.
Facing the woman, Adam prophesies: "Because of this, man shall leave his father and mother and shall be joined to his wife and the two shall be as one flesh" (Gen 2.24). The communion of man and woman is intended to be an event of freedom which is completed in a natural unity. The naturally given bond with the parents is broken so that a new bond can be created of free choice and devotion, which results not only in living together, friendship, an ethical and spiritual relationship, but in a physical unity, which means a unity of life, literally a co-existence, an existence-with. This is the way in which the triadic prototype of life is realized within the limits of created nature.
Consequently, in the biblical perspective the distinction of the sexes, while it has its foundation in the nature of man– it is a manifestation or demonstration of his nature– does not have the needs and expediencies of nature in view, but that unity of nature which is a fruit of freedom from nature, a fruit of personal love. In other words, the distinction of the sexes does not function in man as it functions in the animals where it is exclusively subordinate to the natural necessity of propagation. In Adam's prophecy which interprets the reason or goal of the distinction of the sexes, the physical expediency of propagation does not appear at all– the natural unity "as one flesh" is determined as a unique goal, a unity which is the result of the free "joining" to the person of the other sex. But also in the description of the creation of man which the first chapter of Genesis (vv. 26-29) gives us, the perspective of increase and propagation of people appears as a result of a special blessing of God (v. 28), that is of a special gift which is offered to man, and not as a given physical necessity as in animals. Only sin, the failure of man to realize life in accordance with its triadic prototype, will upset this order and displace the object of the distinction of the sexes from being the "image" of God to the relentless necessity of physical perpetuation.
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i. The power of love
The distinction of the sexes has its foundation in the nature, but it is not identical with the nature, just as it is not to be identified even with the hypostasis of man. It is one of the energies of the nature about which we have spoken above, one of the ways in which the existential reality of the nature operates, the unique, distinct and unrepeatable character of every specific human hypostasis. The science of psychology today assures us that the erotic urge does not appear in man simply at the age when it is needed to serve the propagation of the species. But from the first moment of his birth, the erotic impulse toward the mother constitutes the first possibility of a vital relationship– a possibility which makes up the personality itself of man and the beginning of his entry into the world of people, into the area of life as communion.
Without the distinction of the sexes and the erotic impulse which accompanies it, the fact of relationship, of communion, of love, of eros, would perhaps be defined at the level of behaviour, of communication, of a simple psychological bond. Thanks to the distinction of the sexes, eros is an impulse and presupposition of life, the fundamental presupposition for the realization and manifestation of the personal hypostasis of life. The personal hypostasis of man, even in its biological origin, is a fruit of the eros of two other people. But the composition itself and manifestation of the personhood of the subject is a result of the possibility of relationship, of communion, of erotic reference. The relationship of the infant with its mother is erotic, not of course because it intends the perpetuation of the species, but because it is a relationship constitutive of life. The mother transmits life to the baby, not metaphorically and symbolically, but literally and really: She gives it the nourishment which is a presupposition of life, and with it the caress, the affection, the first words which are addressed to it; that is, she gives it the first possibility of relationship, the feeling of a personal presence without which the baby can never enter the world of people, the world of language and of symbols, of existential identity and names.
The connection of sexual distinction with the creation of man "in the image of God" is not, then, by chance or simply metaphorical or by analogy. Man is the image of God since he is a person, a personal existence. But the person differs from the biological individual, precisely since his existence itself is not naturally given, but is realized as an event of erotic relationship and communion. The distinction of the sexes permits man to give a physical hypostasis (an hypostasis of nature) to his personal existence– permits the personal reference to be effected as an event constitutive of the hypostasis and unifying for the nature of man.
Therefore it is not chance either that God's relationship with man (the principal relationship constitutive of life as a personal hypostasis) is always portrayed by the erotic relationship of a man and woman. When Israel is unfaithful to God and worships idols, the prophets charge that he is committing adultery Uer 13.27), dishonoring the uniqueness of the relationship by which God had elevated him to the place of the "beloved" (Hos 2.23; Rm 9.25). The relationship of God with his people, with each member of his people, is a nuptial secret, erotic, and this is the only reason, for the ecclesial interpretation at least, that a clearly erotic song, the Song of Songs, takes a place among the books of the Old Testament.
But the erotic relationship of God with Israel is only an image and copy of the union which God has realized with humanity in the Person of Christ and by means of his body which is the Church. This is the "great mystery" which the Apostle Paul describes in his Letter to the Ephesians (5.23-33) and which the parables of the Gospels portray with scenes taken from wedding dinners and banquets. In the New Testament, Christ is the bridegroom of the Church and the bridegroom of the soul of each one of us– God is passionately in love with the person of each human. And especially in the Gospel of John, eternal life which Christ comes to give us is defined by the verb "to know", which always renders the Hebrew word which means, in biblical language, the erotic relationship of a man and a woman: "Eternal life is this, to know you the only true God and Jesus Christ whom you have sent" Un 17.3).
In the patristic tradition, God himself in his internal triadic life will be defined as "the whole of eros", the falness of continuous erotic unity: "This eros is love, and it is written, that God is love". And this eros is ecstatic, "stimulating the erotic inclination of God' I which founds and constitutes the beings "outside him": "He, the cause of the universe . . . through the superabundance of his erotic goodness . . . is outside of himself ... and it is as if he feels fascinated by ... love and eros; and he descends from the condition of preeminence before the universe and of separation from the universe." The only way for man to describe the experience of receiving this eros and his response to it is again the relationship of man and woman: "Love for you has come upon me as the love of women." In the ascetical literature, the copy of the love of God for man and of man for God likewise is to be sought in the forms of human eros and especially of bodily love, not of the idealistic forms of platonic nostalgia: "Let bodily love be an example for you of the desire for God". "The most passionate lover of his own beloved does not desire, as God desires the soul he desires to repent. "Blessed is the one who has acquired such desire for God, as that which the passionate lover has for his beloved.
If love as we usually know it expresses more a blind and instinctive impulse for selfish pleasure and not the liberation of the person from the necessities and demands of nature (given that life is supposed to be accomplished as a loving coinherence of two persons), this is because we know love in its fallen condition, we know it as sin, that is, as an existential failure and loss of its purpose and goal. But even in the condition of the fall and of sin, love makes possible the natural union of two different hypostases and the formation of new personal hypostases, because something is preserved from the power to love which has been imprinted on our nature as an image of God. It is the power of love which makes possible the union not only of different hypostases, but also of different natures, and shows man to be "a participant in the divine nature , the whole man to be "co-inhering totally with the whole God and becoming all that God is, except for the identity of essence" The writer of the Areopagitic texts sees an "obscure echo" of this power to love even in the dissolute who "desires the worst life in accord with an unreasonable lust". And St Maximus Confessor recognizes even in the erotic attraction of animals without reason, as in the attractive power which forms the "common alleluia" of the whole creation, a single erotic impulse and movement turning back to the single form of divine life.
All this means that for ecclesial anthropology, the distinction of the sexes neither serves simply the physical expedient of perpetuation of the species, nor only an extension of social roles an extension which permits the creation of the "cell" of social life which is the family. Before anything else, the distinction of the sexes in man and the erotic attraction of heterosexual existences leads the general erotic impulse placed in the nature to its "natural" end and purpose: It serves the imaging in nature of the triadic mode of life– the personal coinherence of life within the limits of created nature. It intends finally the deifying union of man with God.
If man refuses this goal and purpose, love is perverted into an eneluctable suffering of the nature: The nature suffers love, endures it as a tormenting and always unfulfilled desire for existential completion and a relentless expedient for perpetuation of the species. Sin is precisely the failure of love to realize the goal which it has in view, which is the union of man with God. Love is transformed into an everlasting repetition of the tragedy of the Danaids, into an insatiable impulse for the satisfaction of nature, hedonism and pleasure of individual senses. It is no longer an event of communion and loving relationship, but a subordination of the other to subjective demand and the need for sensual pleasure.
Only when the love which is directed to the person of the other sex leads to the loving transcendence of physical individuality (which means: for man to go beyond his individuality, his private desires, needs and demands, to cease to aim at individual survival and to begin to live forJoy of the other, from love for the other), only then is the way freed for man's response to the erotic call of God and for love to become a way of life and a gift of life. Therefore the love of Christ for the Church, to the point of the cross (Eph 5.23-33), is also an xample of conjugal eros, the willing mortification of physical individuality if life is to be realized only as love and self-offering. First Christ incarnates the example of "real love" and makes possible our own erotic reference to his Person: "He first loved us," says Photius the Great, "while we were enemies and hostile. And he not only loved, but he was also dishonoured on our behalf and was smitten and crucified and counted among the dead; and through all these things he presented his love for us".
Within the Church, which is the place of the Kingdom of God– the place where the triadic way of "real life" is realized– "there is neither male nor female" (Gal 3.28).
Within the Church we exist in the manner in which we will exist even after the death of our physical individuality: Not with the powers and abilities of our nature, its psychosomatic energies, but thanks to the love of God "who calls into existence the things that do not exist" (Rom 4.17)– thanks to his own erotic call which constitutes our existence as an event of communion with Him.
This does not mean that our nature is taken away within the space of the Kingdom. It means that the way by which our nature is hypostasized (becomes an hypostasis) is transformed. Nature does not become any longer an hypostasis (a particular living existence) thanks to its own functions and energies, but thanks to the call of God's love. Therefore we no longer have any need to pass by way of the natural possibility of the distinction of the sexes in order to realize our natural existence as an hypostasis of life, that is, of love and communion.
The gospel word wishes to mark this reality when it affirms that in the area of "real life" sexuality is abolished, the distinction of the sexes is abolished: "The sons of this age marry and are given in marriage; but those who are accounted worthy to attain to that age and to the resurrection from the dead neither marry nor are given in marriage; for they cannot die any more, because they are equal to angels and are sons of God, being sons of the resurrection" (Lk 20.34-36, RSV).
The resurrection which abolishes the marital relationship, as it also abolishes death, is a resurrection "from the dead". It presupposes the death of the autonomous physical mode for the composition of our hypostasis, the willing or unwilling death of the individual who draws his existence from the strengths and energies of his nature. It is necessary that a death interpose in order that "what is mortal may be swallowed up by life" (2 Cor 5.4, RSV). The monastics of the Church willingly brave this death. They refuse marriage, the natural way for the erotic self-transcendence of individuality and attempt the leap to hypostasize eros and the body in the mod, of the Kingdom, to exist only by obedience and spiritual exercise, only by self-renunciation from nature, to draw existence and life only from the call of love which God addresses to man.
Accordingly, the monastics of the Church are the pioneers and the first-fruits of the Kingdom– the Kingdom which is being brought to birth secretly within the bosom of the Church. We others, the majority, have need of a "helper" (Gen 2.18) of the other sex in order to arrive, with the example of Christ's cross, at the death and resurrection which the monastics attain with a leap. And both roads– both the monastic and the married– are equally revered and considered worthy within the Church, since the goal of them both is the same: Life free from space, time, corruption and death.
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"Time is the freedom to love." (from Ware's "The Inner Kingdom")
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 |  ReasonableDoubt Registered Member
 Date Joined Jan 2003 Total Posts : 655 | Posted 8/12/2003 7:56 AM (GMT -6) |   | My comment about the pets is merely to show what may in fact happen - if polygamists want their relationships state-sanctioned- gays do - why can't other types of relationships also have the same state-sanctioning- so goes the argument. It wouldn't be that someone is "married" to the pet in any sexual manner, just as it wouldn't be that way for siblings, or other relationships either. It would be that the relationship is entered into solely for the reason of getting those benefits and rights that marriage confers.
A better example may be that once gay marriage becomes legal, I may decide, as a woman, that I wish to marry my female roommate. I may, in fact, be straight, and have no intention of doing anything sexual. But maybe I and my roommate have resigned ourselves to never finding a man to marry, so have decided to marry each other, SOLELY to get the rights and benefits of marriage. In actuality our relationship wouldn't change at all.
now I know, straight opposite sex people enter into marriage of convenience, sham marriages, etc., as well, but my point is, the floodgates can be completely opened to legitimizing any and every type of relationship. | | Back to Top | | |
  |  PotOnWheel Registered Member

Date Joined Jul 2001 Total Posts : 9890 | Posted 8/12/2003 8:53 AM (GMT -6) |   | quote: Originally posted by BBBCanada
And again, this is not even a thread about slippery slopes or about same-sex marriage (though it is within that context). It's really a thread about the whole notion of GOVERNMENT NEUTRALITY. I know it is easy to get off topic, but please...
Good point.
To me, that makes it a thread about "sphere sovereignty." (alla Abraham Kuyper)
I think that Gov. CAN (and maybe should) make laws that protect ALL couples with economic co-interests (pairs of elderly ex-missionary ladies come to mind: who's name is the lease in...). But it has no right to move into an area that is NOT its business: which defining marriage is not!!! | | Back to Top | | |
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