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graygirl
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Date Joined Aug 2001
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| Posted 4/7/2002 12:30 PM (GMT -6) |   | I know this topic has been beat down on here and other places. i made some comments months ago about not being able to marry a white man (I'm african) because i didn't want to look across the table at my white husband who would never understand..couldn't understand.
well what i didn't say is that i'm dating a white guy.it's fine for now but at times the weight of a marriage or the prospect of that is more than i can bear.
how do ppl do it? the thought of explaining to my family and extended family that my husband is white...that he doesn't speak our language...ugh. one of my aunts once told me "you know it's okay if you marry a black man, an african (i realize that Africa is not one big country as most westerners think- i'm being ambigous to protect my identity - although some ppl will know who i am:)) man would be better, but not a white man, not white"...oookkaay.
then i have all these white friends who think life is just one big happy club. there are very few places where an inter-racial couple is celebrated. I'm proud to say that in my experience, my church, Woodland, is one of those places. there i forget for awhile. there i can see as God sees, value the things he values....
but i just don't know how ppl get the strength to do it in the real world. Greg is alway encouraging us to go against the culture, etc. and an inter-racial marriage would be just that. but swimming upstream takes constant strength.
the way my life has been (my family moved to the States - the Midwest at that!- when i was 9 b/c of instabilty/war) the likelyhood of my boyfriend/husband being white is high....you know?
i don't know what my point is....maybe i'm just pms-ing. it is difficult, more than well-meaning, ra-ra christians think....i just wish my life was simpler.
GG
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