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Well this question is applicable to any prayer you may have. Say you pray for a specific job. Well, isn't that asking God to interfere with the free will of the employer? Or you pray for a nonchristian friend or relative - again you're asking God to intervene.

And say you get married. How do you know that god is the one who provided the husband? Considering that over 93% of adult americans have been married at least once, it seems like a pretty good bet you will get married. How will you know why though?

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Well, considering I haven't been asked out on a date since 1997 I think it's pretty likely that the one guy who does ask me to marry him will have been sent from God!

Tigress

The Angel of the Lord encamps around those who fear Him, and He delivers them.
-Psalm 34:7

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Finally, I know some people who pray for, say, a job, but then never apply for any jobs. There are real world things we can do and we need to be wise about that. (Lu 16:8)

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It's true, sometime's we need to say YES and spend TIME dating. I guess. I value my time so much, it's hard for me to say "yes" to a man asking for a date...unless he is in shining armor and on a white horse or something

Then He showed me the river whose waters give life, sparkling like crystal, flowing out from the throne of God and of the Lamb. Rev. 22:1

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Tigress, two words:

Green Card

You're welcome.

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So Laika,
Is that how you got married?
dlw

Prayer from Kenya

From the Cowardice that dare not face new truth,
From the Laziness that is contented with half-truth,
From the Arrogance that thinks it knows all truth,
Lord Deliver Me.

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Tigress, two words:

Green Card

You're welcome.

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So Laika,
Is that how you got married?
dlw

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No, the only problem I had to overcome was a restraining order.





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This seems to contradict the Truth that God can and does provide all good things to His children.

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Seriously, though. To me there is a deeper issue here. Is this an area where God really has no ultimate control? I mean God could bring to me all His choices of a husband for me but they could all very well say no. The Bible says that God is our provider for all things. Yet, if a person really needs to be married, God cannot really guarantee that He can provide a spouse for someone, according to this. What if a person truly wants and needs a spouse and God truly wants for them to have one, but each of the people He brings to them say no? This seems to contradict the Truth that God can and does provide all good things to His children.

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This is a tough question. I have a friend in his late forties who wants to be married but hasn't found someone yet. I think he's been too picky and not willing to modify some things about himself AND he did pass up two great gals and I think he regrets that.
Some matches are better than others but the bottom line is a marriage relationship takes sacrifice, giving and work on the parts of both people.

God did answer one specific prayer I had when I was considering courting my wife so praying is a very valid technique. Happily married 21 1/2 years now.





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Bless your sweet heart, Laika! Keep lovin' on that wife of yours!
S.B.G.

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Thank you. If I can catch her, I'll still keep lovin' her.

Her mom is in an Alzheimer's home and when I visit I often see an old couple sitting there, I think the man comes in to visit his wife and they just SIT there, side by side. I've never seen them talk. I always have to hurry on past so I don't start blubbering.




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Laika,

That's so sweet!

You're making me cry just talking about it!

S.B.G.

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Sorry. I got my mother's tender heart. I cry at Hallmark ads on T.V.

Tigress
Here's my view on marriage. Let me talk about careers and immigrants first. I'm often impressed by some immigrants, how they start out in a real bad situation, come to this country and seizing whatever economic activity they can (that's not illegal or immoral) succeed. In other words, they bloom where they're planted. They don't say, "I wish I could be a ballet star", they seize whatever opportunity presents itself and run with it. On the other hand, some native born people, such as myself, have specific dreams, that are often unrealisitc. We pine away and wait for the perfect opportunity and it never comes. We don't seize the available opportunities because that might lead us away from our perfect little dreams.

Marriage is like this. Many people wait around for the ideal mate that they've created in their heads/imaginations. NO ONE meets this ideal so they continue to wait, letting opportunities go by. I know some people (Japanese) who had arranged marriages and you know, they MAKE it work. I'm not suggesting an arranged marriage but the principle is there. Don't wait for an impossible ideal, seize an opportunity and make it work.

Egads, that's enough seriousness for one afternoon.




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This seems to contradict the Truth that God can and does provide all good things to His children.

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If you search the archives you would find that much talk has been made over suffering being a good thing. So maybe there is no contradiction.

peace and love, don

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AAAAARRRRRRRRGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!
I wanna husband!!!!!!!!!!!!

Tigress

The Angel of the Lord encamps around those who fear Him, and He delivers them.
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AAAAARRRRRRRRGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!
I wanna husband!!!!!!!!!!!!

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http://bride.ru

There's a section for hubbies.





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An aside. Three words.

Pre. Marital. Counseling.

Don't get married without LOTS of it, throughly done. Ounce of prevention is a pound of cure. Nuff said.

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Well this question is applicable to any prayer you may have. Say you pray for a specific job. Well, isn't that asking God to interfere with the free will of the employer? Or you pray for a nonchristian friend or relative - again you're asking God to intervene.

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Just a quick thought. As a determinist, Gina, what exactly do you pray for? That God will do what God has already decided to do from the beginning of time?

Brett

"Siste viator et memento mori."